Sunday, July 2

Blogging Can Mean Sanity for someone who's ADHD!!!

How can blogging mean sanity for a few, and stress for others?  I have neglected my blog and so much more  over the last few months.  Earlier last week when I was writing my wardrobe building post, it dawned on me that writing slows my ADHD brain down.  It allows me to think through my thoughts and make better plans, or at least recognize when I'm being squirrelly and distracted with my projects.  I have so many things I want to sew and do!!  However, every time I begin to cut, plan, or sew, I stop to take pictures, look for a book, or record a video to show you what I think may be helpful.  I loose focus!!  Problem with that is, what was my objective in the first place....its a shot in the dark, I don't know, how do I guess what you all might be interested in where videos or tutorials, or reviews are concerned.  What do I record, what is needed, where do I place all the content?  Instagram? SnapChat? Facebook? Periscope? Tumblr? YouTube? The list goes on-and-on!!!






The Predicament:
Let me explain my predicament.
You see, I occasionally teach pattern fitting and sewing lessons in my local area sewing machine store, here in Houston.  I also teach online live classes and manage an online community, plus run a very active YouTube Channel, as well as draft and design the occasional custom pattern, and suck at sewing for others, though my skill would prove otherwise.  I am slowly working on designing my own pattern line on top of all this activity.   What that does, is funnel in tutorial request from many different feeds, especially social media, i.e. FaceBook, Periscope, Instagram, Twitter, Google+, this blog, emails, messages, and of course Youtube.  In addition to that, it causes me to "want" everything I see others make on those social media outlets, including feedly, my rss reader, tumblr, and Bloglovin, not to mention reading blogs and watching videos too.  PHEEWWW!!! Thats a whole lot!!!!

To help you understand why this can be a serious issue for me, you have to know that, I also struggle with ADHD!! and suffer with Clinical Depression.  Exercise and Sewing are my outlet, and is necessary to my mental health.  (I promise, more on that mental health issue later.)  For now, teaching pattern fitting to others requires me to study patterns often, and not just the patterns I "want" to sew for myself, but many patterns in various styles, and various sizes whether I will be sewing it up for myself or not.  This means, I have opened plenty patterns just to review them and study them for educational content, and unfortunately left them "out" and about, creating clutter.  (eeee...)


Projects a plenty!!
Along with all the activities, projects, "starts and stops" going on in my studio, I desire greatly to sew for my grangddaughters regularly. Essentially this causes me to have almost zero loyalty to any one project that I start for myself.  Most difficult when you have a customer to answer to.  If any of my granddaughters' need for an outfit pops up on my to-do list, everything else will suffer.  Yes, they will suffer.  (That's part of the struggles with ADHD.)  Unfortunately, as I grow weary with this dilemma, so to does my struggle to keep requested projects or tutorial request prioritized and at the forefront of my to do list. (Another issue Istruggle with.)

The Solution:
This dilemma can be easily solved by not worrying about any request, and just ignoring the "noise" of the internet you say?  Well, that won't work for me anymore, because the internet sewing community has become "real" for me.  You all have began to jump off the pages of these inter webs and begun to mean something to me on a level I never knew possible.   I am finally enjoying knowing you all as my sewing community.  I am finally beginning to "connect" with you all as the living breathing souls that you are, and not just keystrokes on the other end of the cold fiber optic rivers that connect our fingers via the keyboards from which we type our responses, makes, thoughts, and reviews.

Thank YOU!!!
I say THANK YOU ladies for helping me to keep some type of direction in my sew life and keep creating.  You all have helped me beyond any idea you could know.  To that I say I really appreciate you.  Like or dislike, I also know that everyone doesn't care for my style, nor my message, because over the years as a new blogger, growing as a content creator, I have learned the hard way, that not everyone is gonna like me, nor my delivery.    I love all you for that, because to be honest with you, that actually keeps me grounded in the knowledge that I am a child of God! and that is plenty to be consumed with, than to try to please the masses.

I Found my TRIBE!!!
Thus, I am so glad to finally have a place for my kind of humor, and especially thankful to have you all who have a made the choice to take-in my kind of humor and conversation, my kind of teaching, my kind of quirkiness.  Those who have joined my community voluntarily, not just passively, to be part of who I am on the web.  Whatever reasons that make you come back for more of my shenanigans, I certainly appreciate you!!!  You keep me going on these webs, and I really do love sharing what I learn along the way.

Social Media BURNOUT!!
With all that being said, I have to admit, that the social media scene is just not for me.... I am narrowing down my reach to this blog and my YouTube channel, with an adjunct community on Facebook /some Instagrato bring it all together.  The Instagram stories and the twitter, periscoping, and multiple Facebook groups will have to go.  I must focus, I must have some direction, and having too many outlets, is no different than using a colander to draw water from a well.

FINALLY some direction!!
I am so exited to have made this decision.  With it has come so much peace for me, and it feels great!!!  There are a lot of opportunities on the web to interact with people, and with that, comes over exertion, and burnout.  I don't want to get burnout anymore, I want to continue enjoying this journey along with building relationships that I hope will grow into friendships down the road.  I can't manage that by chasing rabbits and chickens, which are what Social Media is to me!!!

GOOD BYE Twitter, 
GOOD BYE Overload/Facebook 
GOOD BYE Periscope
GOOD BYE Tumblr
GOOD BYE, excess!!!

HELLO Direction
HELLO Order
HELLO PEACE!!!

Thank you my people!!! 

17 comments :

  1. You go Girl it seems like you have all figured out i loved the blog

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    1. It would appear so Victoria. But everyday is a new challenge. Thanks for reading.

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  2. Love you girl❤️To the moon and back.

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    1. I know hun. And I so appreciate you!!! Thanks wendy.

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  3. Well said and well explained Andrea! NEVER apologize for taking the time to pray and figure out what's best for you in this season of your life! You are a BLESSING to us!

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  4. Congratulations on your newly found focus! I am glad you will continue posting on your blog. And wow, you sure have had a lot going on. I find myself being drawn to more social media platforms but have resisted for the reasons you have stated here. Social media can really take up so much of your time, precious time. There are just so many social media platforms out there! All the best to you in your ongoing journey.

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  5. Amen Sis! I will be right there with you!

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  6. Whew, I thought it was just me. But I could not follow you on all those sites. I just have a file folder for your blog posts. But keep on keeping on. I could not imagine my sewing without you. You are a beautiful, talented child of God! Thank you for what you do.God bless you.

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  7. I have been struggling with overload of ideas and goals, too. I appreciate your well thought and well expressed ideas about the effect this has on your life and how you propose to handle it.

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  8. Good for you! Knowing your limits is so important. So many folks don't have a clue!

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  10. Andrea, you are inspiring, talented and funny! I thank you for taking your time to help me learn new fitting skills as I attempt sewing for myself again. But you must do what is right for you, we your followers will just have to accept what you can give. PS - the Go Pro shopping trip was great.

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  11. Thank you for sharing....too much on ones plate can be overwheleming when you want to make others happy but drowning yourself. Stepping back to focus is what makes us better and stronger. When you have reached the point where you recognize this, you know you have control over you mental stated. As one who suffers from anxiety I have learned to recognized my signs early and begin self-care ASAP. What is wonderful is when God places people in your circle who care about YOU and not what you can do. So step back enjoy life, your community and fans are going now where. Love you!

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  12. Thank you for sharing....too much on ones plate can be overwheleming when you want to make others happy but drowning yourself. Stepping back to focus is what makes us better and stronger. When you have reached the point where you recognize this, you know you have control over you mental stated. As one who suffers from anxiety I have learned to recognized my signs early and begin self-care ASAP. What is wonderful is when God places people in your circle who care about YOU and not what you can do. So step back enjoy life, your community and fans are going now where. Love you!

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  13. Hi Andrea! I'm so glad I've found you! Thank you for your amazing tutorials on Youtube. I also have ADD and you're correct about all of it. I got so overwhelmed recently with pattern testing, strike off sewing, trying to keep up on my blog, etc, that I finally just decided to take a few weeks-a month off. I need to focus and can't do that if I'm constantly having to check social media.
    I apppreciate your honesty and love the site! Thank you so much for sharing!

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